An Emotional Rollercoaster

One of my MCW clients is embarking on her writing project. After checking out her blog, I was inspired to blog an entry as well. Check out her blog: http://wherethiseaglenests.blogspot.com/

Have been musing a lot about my life lately. I've been through quite a fair bit of emotional roller coaster. I experienced:

• The Sweet Victory of having managed a successful event with a bunch of people I care a lot
• The Hermit withdrawing from the world and human so that she can have her solitude (in short, it means being a potato couch)
  
• The Stillness in my heart when I looked at the scenery as I'm blogging this
• The Pride of a lady whom refused to acknowledge her feelings
• The Courage of a cub to confront her weaknesses
• The Brilliance of inspiration in self-coaching
• The Sinking feeling of reality setting in that nothing BIG is accomplished, yet
• The Tiredness from all the emotional turmoil
• The Awe in having breakthroughs in my life and seeing how much I've changed
• The Introvert who says, "Let's keep this entry, short and simple"
  

6-steps to get out of feeling overwhelmed/ lost

Dear Wisdom,

I'm feeling lost, overwhelmed, very stuck in my life right now. I've lost clarity again and i really want to move on. What should I do now?

All my energies are focused on feeling self-doubt, overwhelmed, stagnant, stuck, lost, and confronted. What should I do next??? There are so many things I need to handle right now, but I don't know where and how to begin. =(

Feel really lousy now. Sigh.

Please talk to me and tell me what to do next.

Please help me,
-=Lost Girl=-

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Dear Lost Girl,

Would like to 1st acknowledge the emotional turmoil you're going thru currently. Things must be difficult for you when the road ahead is unclear. Sometimes, when we are stuck, all we need is a helping hand to lead us thru the right path, or shine the light to see where you are. However, most people would feel too stuck to call for help. Remember - for every problem, there must be a solution ; )

Here're a few steps you can start to take on and try if it works for you.

Step 1- you got to understand where are you in your life. I'm referring to the positioning you are with regards to your goals and targets. If you have a goal of $50k target, for example, are you facing backwards, face down, left, right or what? I'm referring to energetic & mental-wise. If you can locate your position with regards to your goal, we can do something about your progress

Step 2 - what has been done so far? Usually when someone is feeling overwhelmed, it's b'cos he/she over-lapsed many things together and trying to figure out where and how to begin. If that's the case for you, i suggest you start by breaking down the different areas of your life into columns. In each column, list down the target/ goal you have. List down the things you should be doing such that it will lead you to your goal directly. Next, list down all the things you've done so far. I meant direct actions, instead of indirect actions.
For example, Column 1 - Health. Target - Lose 5 kg in 7 weeks. Direct Actions - Jog 3 times a week. Eat 1/2 bowl of rice each meal. No soft drinks! What I have done - Jog once a week. Managed to reduce soft drinks intake to once per day from 3 times a day.

Step 3rd - Have a priority system. It could be that your priority system is based on time-critical, or whether the tasks bring in the most money. Your priority system would depend on 1) how practical is it in forwarding your life, 2) whether it fits your values, and 3) what you need most at this point in your life. Create a priority system for the different areas in your life to see which is the most important. Make sure you know what your priority system is based on.

Step 4 - Block out your schedule. Once you have a priority system in place, block out the schedule to tackle the most critical ones 1st. Or for some people, what motivates them is creating small wins for themselves. So they would actually prefer to tackle the least important ones and work their way up the list. If that method works for you, try that instead.

Step 5 - Minimize your gap between your goals and current skill sets. Once you are done working your way thru your list, start looking at the missing gap between your skill sets and your goals. What skill sets or knowledge do you need to gain in order for you to progress faster? What would you need to have or be in order to be in FLOW?

Step 6 - Acquire the skills. GO FOR IT and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN! =)

Let me know if it works! ; )