Musing

Dreams

It's really weird to realize how my dreams drop hints of my future. It's like one day out of the blue I did something and an old dream began to make sense. In fact, on a separate day, I said smt to someone, and I suddenly had the key to access another part of that same dream. Suddenly, eveything just fits.

How about having another dream that teaches you a lesson? I unintentionally dumped shit on a friend last night. In my dream, someone else dumped the same shit on me and I was the victim. I woke up feeling the what-the-heck-just-happened-to-me emotions.

My only feedback to my dream-maker is that next time it'll be so much better to let me dream the dates and times of the events, especially anything to do with striking the lottery.

Love

A friend asked, "Where can you find most amount of love?"

I replied, "Within me."

It is the love from within that allows me to view the world with loving eyes, to perceive, receive and give love because I can recognize when I see it.

Professional Coach Training Program 1

I took it over the 24-25June weekend. One of the issues I used as part of a coaching exercise was to earn my desired salary when I graduate next year. The objective of the coaching exercise is to arrive at a desired outcome within 15mins of the conversation.

My coach-partner: Your boss is the master coach. How come you never ask him to coach you?

Coachee (Me): ... ... ...

I dunno which one tickles me more -

That my coach-partner got bored towards 5 mins of the conversation and invite me to receive coaching from my boss directly...

or That it never dawned on me before to request coaching from my boss/mentor directly.

OMG! >_<

Overcoming Fear

It's strange how one attracts the same lessons until he/she learns the meaning of the lessons and transcend beyond the lessons themselves.

I tried so hard to avoid learning how to do up sophisticated charts using excel. (Yes, i did an excel module before and i actually survived through without doing any charts. It's called principles of seduction.) I got the I-am-so-not-good-with-technical stuffs, and doing anything related to charts thingy tend to leave me incapicitated. In fact, I survived 4 years of university life without doing any of those charts at all, despite majoring in ISM and mktg.

I just had a i-had-it-coming kinda feeling the moment I had a new supervisor in my internship company. True enough, the 1st assignment she gave me was something to do with excel, and generating those "chim chim" charts.

I learnt how to manipulate those charts today to my favor. Can anyone imagine that? OMG!

Again, i dunno which one tickles me more -

That I am amused at myself for not knowing how to do a simple thing like charts, or that i'm amused at myself for being so happy picking up the skill.

hahaha.......... =p

Interesting Quotes

To my coachees, and a self-reminder:

- Sometimes when you say "yes" to others, you're saying "no" to yourself.

- The warrior of light sometimes wonder, "why did i labor for so long over a battle that could have been resolved with only half the energy i spent on it?"
The truth is that all problems seem very simple once they have been resolved. The great victory, which appears so simple today, was the result of a series of victories that went unnoticed.

adapted from the Manual of the Warrior of Light, Paulo Coelho

The Heart of Excellent Service

It's been quite sometime since i was an assistant, n getting involved in the doing of things during events.

I remember when i used to be an assistant, i took on each task with alot of joy.

I remember putting my best effort with fervor in making a difference to the participants, knowing that no matter how small my tasks seem to be, I want and can make a difference to others, even if it means helping out with the logistics at the back of the room.

As I studied in Julz's "School of Excellence" n Eng hao's "School of Impeccability" for my Course Supervisor and Team leader trainings, I learnt alot about discipline and excellency from them.
My best trainings came from them, and I honor both my mentors.

However, I began to realize something is greatly missing in my leadership style recently. Somehow, along the way, I got a bit jaded. More often than not, I took on the leadership positions because I knew I could perform the job well, and also because there weren't many ppl whom were ready enough to take on these leadership positions.

During this The Courage to Create (TCC)'s assisting over the weekend made me realize one thing - Beneath a great leader lies great service.

Coming from an assistant point of view made me see clearer what kind of leader I can be, which is providing the best experience for both participants and the assisting team. I no longer put "getting the job done impeccably or doing my role with excellence" as my focus anymore.

The Goal I set from now on for myself as a leader - To Provide Excellence Service.
And impeccability, integrity, intention, intelligence, invisibility, zen, alacrity and discipline are by-the-way thingy. All actions, tasks and roles, forward us towards providing an excellence service.
Along the way, humility and compassion towards the assistants come in, as I forward the team towards providing an excellence service.

Not forgetting, of 'cos, with this unforgettable (and painful) training from Kelvin last thurs after MCW about never allowing compassion at the expense of the company's resources, I also learnt how to be creative in providing an excellent service without wasting the company's resources.
Hehehe... =P

So, I formally declare the opening of my own school of thought/training/whatever-you-called-it : "The School of Excellent Service".

Enrollment begins today. If you, like me, believe that beneath a great leader lies excellence service, I welcome you to enrol with us today.

The Enrollment criteria are as follows:
1) Commitment to results
2) Dedication to servicing others
3) Sensitive and intuitive to your surroundings (including ppl)
4) Compassion
5) Creative


Course fee: Time, Commitment & Effort

What you will get out of the course:
1) Passion for life
2) Joy
3) The Art of Giving & Receiving love
4) Unforgettable Experience
5) The Science & Art of Excellence Service
6) Creativity
7) fill in yourself


Enrol in the School of Excellence Service Today! ; )

To-do for July

What I would like more of...

1) retail therapy
2) a lazy day tanning at the beach
3) chilling out with friends at pub
4) reading a good book at home (n not b'cos it's a compulsory reading! OMG! we hafta read atlas shrugged!! >_< ) 5) quality rest zzzzzzz 6) more me-time. enjoy nua-ing at home. 7) ktv sessions with my close friends 8) sisters' gathering 9) bitching, moaning and whining, and exchanging juicy scandals with my gal frens. hoho! 10) catching a good movie 11) romantic nights out 12) shopping with family and updating them my life 13) boss utilizing and bringing out my potential in internship. time to remind him i've been slacking for almost a week doing nothing productive =P 14) play bball! i've not played for more than a month. no wonder body feels off 15) massages! been planning to go but still haven't arrange the appt yet! >_<
16) time to register for violin class. heh heh... i'm learning violin soon. Whoopey!
17) late night calls with friends (not coaching calls!)
18) adventures! where's my dose of adventures! =(
19) ... ... ...

gosh!

What I do as a leader...

As a leader...

I serve Humanity,
I serve my world(s),
I live my life powerfully
so I may lead others.
I bow down to love and humility,
and stand tall with integrity and courage.
I am responsible for all cause and effects of my actions,
as I co-exist in my past, present and future at the same time.
I walk in God, as God resides in me.

I am the master of my destiny,
and a servant to the Universe.

My realizations this week

What does it takes to be oneheart?

One Heart
One Soul
One Lady
One Goal.

It takes nothing(ness) to be oneheart.

What does it takes to be a leader?

Inspiration
Humility

What does it takes to be humility?

Intimacy with your people
Start the basics from scratch, all over again
Learn from your peers how they lead the team
Then you know, this is the way they want to be led.
Lead them the way they want to be led.

Took me so long to realize that. >_< well, better late than never.

What does it take to be a coach?

An unbiased logic
Your ability to coach your life
Knowing when to be a friend, when to kick ass, when to give acknowledgement, when to let your coachees shine, when to discipline them, when to push/pull them harder, when not to push/pull them, where to push/pull them, and how much to push/pull.
Compassion
Commitment to results

The Good and Not-So-Good

I'm currently undergoing a 9month intensive leadership training. I took up the program since 04 May. It is exactly 1 month since I first started the leadership journey, and much have changed in my life:

The Good
1) Increased my monthly income/allowance by 200%
2) Improved relationship with my brother
3) Created a mini coaching program for 3 students as a form of self-training, while earning some side income
4) Ability to juggle many many commitments/responsibilities at one go
5) Having more coachees than ever (something that i've always enjoyed doing)
6) Have more Discipline in my life
7) New challenges every single moment
8) Connect better with strangers recently. More open towards them and ready to strike up a conversation anytime. It's something i used to dread.
9) Improving relationships with people around me, especially my current work place.


The Not-So-Good
1) Was down with a persistant cough for the entire month until i manage to schedule time to see the doctor finally.
2) Hardly spend much time with myself. Even when i do, i would be slping soundly. I missed those daily self-contemplation time on my long bus journey
3) Miss those days where I met up with my sisters and close frens every week
4) There's no turning back or quitting. Once you're in for the 9 months training, you're in for good. >_<
5) No time to bitch about things. It's more of a bitch-fast-and-get-over-it-asap kinda thingy.


Last night was my 1st proper lesson for my mini coaching program. Whenever the students got confronted and showed their resistance, it reminded me of my past- those days when i used to fall aslp for almost every lesson, how i used to procrastinate and not submitting my assignment, how i used to have lots of distractions in my life and just wanted to have lots of fun and play. How i used to dislike the word "discipline" and the story goes on...

When i walked out of my student's house, I suddenly felt that i've transformed so much that i couldnt recognize myself. That was me 2 years ago... It's only 2 years... but it felt like a long long time... How time flies...

I feel like catching up with all my close friends n sisters now...............